We built 'Safe Spaces' because it sounds good. We can't control the world, we can't control the bullies that exist, we can't control stressful situations for our children so rather than teach them to grow up somebody thought teaching them to have a place to go and hide is a better idea.
Yesterday I talked about Helicopter Parents. I encountered them in my college teaching too-- parents would call me and ask about Junior's grades and thankfully I was obligated by school policy to tell them that information was confidential. I had one irate parent yell at me that they were paying for classes-- well that's your own fault, dumbo.
Is that harsh?
You see I think kids should pay their own way. Not all of them. My brother had a perfect 4.0 grade average in high school--I'm not making that up. He did so well academically that they put a plaque with his name on it in the school entryway. That kid deserved to go to college on someone else's dime.
Me? I slid through high school with minimal effort, maintaining a solid B average because that was the level of effort I gave it. I didn't even try, never studied, I took good notes, and that meant not just writing down what the teacher was saying but what they MEANT-- that's the key to successful learning. That's where questions should come in, to clarify your understanding of what it is they are trying to teach.
But I digress. A kid like me, who only took school half seriously-- I should pay my own way. Because I was still figuring things out. You pay my way, I'm likely going to cut some classes that I don't find interesting. I pay my way? I'm more likely to go to class.
'Safe Spaces' are no more safe that 'Gun Free Zones'-- they make the people who came up with it feel better and if you feel better you stop looking for actual solutions, because actual solutions are hard.